Grinding and Cinco de Mayo getaway

Hey dolls : )


In a few hrs, I will be in Vegas shopping and partying my ass off.
Tuesday back to regular schedule, then two final exams, and a huge charity event [NFL].  Athletes are sooooo played out, I'm looking for the behind the scenes guys. This is my first major event and I'm super excited.  I will def blog about it.

I'm still in school, working pt, and I have my 2 main "boyfriends". 

[Jake and Accent Daddy] 

     

. I decided to give up on the over saturated "sugar sites".  I'm out free styling, volunteering, networking and of course shopping.

SB's are easily replaceable. 

I cannot sit on the Internet bullshitting around all day.

Managing my SB life and my "real life" can be overwhelming sometimes. It's like I'm always on the grind and looking for the next best thing. Don't get me wrong...my SD's are good to me but I'm not one of those girls who plan to make this a SB thing a career for years to come. I want something more than a fucking allowance and a few disposable items..

 I am after REAL MONEY. 

I want the big fish. A whale. A generous big money guy without a lot of hang-ups. Meaning no pre nup.



In order to attract this guy, I had to take a step back from the computer and have a "State of the Union" with myself. Meaning I had to figure out what I wanted in life and what steps I need to take to attract my Whale.

I accepted the possibility that my Whale might not look like one of these guys

but more like this

If you come to my blog and it's gone, 

Know that I'm laughing straight to the bank. 

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Jake planned the cinco de Mayo Vegas trip. We leave tomorrow afternoon. I suggested we have a small gathering at his house. Something laid back like a  bbq, play pool,  and/or watch the game. That way we both get wasted safely at his house without the drama. I tried to convince him to stay local and go full out for MDW but he is dead set on Vegas for cinco de mayo. I have no problem w leaving town I just don't want to waste MY VACATION SHOPPING TIME babysitting his ass. He's one of those loud, annoying drunks too.....smh.

Jake is that you? lmaoo 

Anyway.

My Bday is in a few weeks.  : )

AccentDaddy already asked for my wish list.

Sneak peek:

Spring is almost over but this trench is must have. 

*Seductive Pout

Enjoy your weekend dolls.
*besos
Mocha

Happy Daddy = Happy Bank Account

Hey dolls!

*muah

Having a sugary 2012 so far???

I know I am!

I missed my blog so I just wanted to drop in and give a few updates of whats going on in my atmosphere.

I'm a working girl now : )

No, I'm not escorting but I have a new on campus job in a very prestigious department. I don't need the extra money but I could def use the work experience on my resume and a few letters of recommendation ;)

The hours fit in perfect with my class/study schedule, NOT with my sugar schedule. After 2 weeks of work, my Daddies were crying neglect. I'll admit I went M.I.A on em, but I have a legit reason.

I had to sweet talk both of em..

I told Jake about the job and he said he would give me the extra money so I could spend more time with him. I appreciated the offer but he's wayyyy too needy for my taste. He was kinda disappointed bc he had another trip planned for us and I have to work. Maybe I could fake the flu to get time off...hmmmm.

Accentdaddy on the other hand, supported my decision. He knew the 7hr time difference and early AM skyping was killing me. : (

Like a true gentlemen, he shifted his schedule to work with mine and even cut down our time. My arrangement $$$ is still the same tho. That's why he's my number one.

So far so good.

Last but not least...

Mr. Amateur from the gym tried to complain about my whereabouts...lol

Jacked body, mind blowing sex, but I can't get over his face...

He's a nice regular Joe Blow and he knows almost everything about my SB life.

I was honest with him from the beginning.

I really don't give a fuck if he's OK with it or not...

I could use a good fuck tonight so I'm def gonna txt him after I finish my all star game date with Jake.

One of the main reasons why I love being a sugar baby is that I MAKE MY OWN RULES.

I make my own hours, meet only the people I want to meet, and decide my allowance.

The difficult part is time management, weeding out pots, and staying out of the mall.

Sweet Sugar Baby Tips

Here are some inexpensive ways to keep your daddy happy

• Text message in the morning and b4 bed saying you’re thinking about him and have a good day/nite.

• Plan a surprise outing where you pick the destinations. Take him to a dive bar or somewhere "hip" and out of his element. My daddy loves it when I take him to the "hood". lmao.

• Send a picture of yourself tastefully using/wearing a gift you got. I do it all the time for AccentDaddy in Europe.

• Teach your Sugar something. If you have a talent or hobby, introduce them to it. I cook and bake for Jake's helpless ass. lol I try to show him how to cook.

• If your SD is helping you pay for college, fill him in on test grades etc. ; )

• Mail your Sugar a card. Ask if it's OK for snail mail. If not send him a funny e card.

Unless your daddy is into the dominatrix scene....

Do not make it hard for the next baby by treating your SD like shit.

xoxo

Mocha

SA(dot) com on Maury *giggle

This is why I'm done with some of the sugar sites in 2012.

I understand they have to advertise but damn...the market is flooded with trash.

As a matter of fact, most of the talk show segments are scripted with paid actresses but paid or not, I would never do a talk show.

Why?

#1 Past / Present/ potential SD's or regular wealthy men might see your dumb ass.

#2 I am a future healthcare professional.

Reputation and discretion is everything in the business world.

Some prestigious organizations might not welcome you with open arms if they saw you on tv bragging.

Would you [sugarbaby] give up your anonymity for a few minutes in the spotlight??

BTW: I am extra careful with my sexy pics n vids for accentdaddy. I never show my face on the camera. Go take a peek at all of the unsuspecting victims on xvideos...

I would hate to get caught out there.

xoxo

[brownsugarbaby]

Sugar Safety Part Deux and updates

Hey dolls!

Long time no see. : )

I know haven't been on the scene regularly but I'm still around. Just been partying, traveling, and enjoying the New Year so far. I can't be out gettin it AND on here blogging about it everyday. lol. I'm trying to make it happen. xD

Sugar Updates

AccentDaddy

Accentdaddy was very, very good to me this Christmas.

He's super thoughtful AND he sent gifts for my sis n bff bc I "talk about them so much". ; )

He is a very lonely and sensitive guy

[I would post the card and very personalized but cute gifts he sent but I dont wanna blow my cover],

total sweetheart tho

He's a team player. #1 on my roster.

Jake

Big Spender but I hate partying with him.

Why?

He does not know when to sit the fuck down!!!

I cannot drink AND enjoy my night bc I have to look out for both of us.

Long story short...we spent NYE weekend together at Green Valley Ranch outside the LV strip. I had a blast at the countdown party, then the next thing I know I had to help him back upstairs. He started crying on me this time...like real tears. He had a big nasty cry. He went on and on about how God hates him and the world is going to end. I really wish he would get help with his alcoholism. Despite his antics it was a nice short n sweet getaway.

Anyway, I just wanted to finish up my post about

SUGAR SAFETY.

What do you do when a nice pot or daddy turns into a creep and start blowing up your cell / inbox or FB?

What do you do when his wife is a crazy stalker and wants to kick your ass?

I have never been in a sketch situation[thank god], but I have had a pot "find" me online. I heard a lot of horror stories about stalkers and other shady bs from men. Last year, the ex boyfriend of an associate of mine blasted lewd photos of her to her work email contacts and got her fired. I think the embarrassment and humiliation is worse than being fired.

I have more tips to help protect yourself and create a wall between your "SB life" and your "REAL life".

• I'll say it b4 and i'll say it again....GET RID OF FACEBOOK. esp. if you are under your govt name. If you are private and unsearchable you can still be "found" on your family's friend list. People look through all the friends lists to dig for more info. TRUST.

• Create an alias name close to your real name. Something "normal". ex. Melissa Stephens=Marissa Stevenson. *wink I call it a DBA name. DOING BUSINESS AS.

• Never give out your personal email or any email linked to something else like a .edu account

• Get google voice

• Never link pics/vids from an acct in your real name. Twitter, yfrog, photobucket accts. An easy but very costly mistake. Be careful with checked in or 4square or whatev.

Now as far as a stalker in real life.

Do not waste any more time!! Get off the computer.

1. Call the cops
2. File a report
3. Get a restraining order ASAP.
4. Change and block your numbers.

If the situation is really out of hand, lay low for a while with a trusted friend or family member.

Until next time....

xoxo

mocha

Sugar Safety On and Off "The Field" Part 1

Hey Dolls!!!

I am officially on holiday!!!

I had to put the sugar bowl and my "dating" life on hold but now I'm back in the game. After a week of preparing and studying for final exams, I am ready to unwind. My agenda and to-do list is super full these next two weeks....

I'm Ready to Party

While preparing for a night out on the town, SB's always worry about our dresses and makeup...we never worry about the unexpected...our inhibitions are lower, esp in a different environment...ex. Vegas weekend or a swanky boutique hotel.


How you decide to celebrate the holiday is your business but I want everyone to remain safe on and off "the field". I always hear bad news toward the end of the year. This is the time for alcohol and rowdy ass people and the unexpected.

When I say "the unexpected", I don't mean unexpected like a random argument with your SD or BFF...I mean something really unexpected like robbery, date rape, or any other attack.

Just bc you are partying at an exclusive spot or at Daddy's villa.... Don't think you are above bullshit and untouchable. The GLOBAL economy is fucked up and ppl are acting CRAZY and super DESPERATE.

Young aloof women are easy targets.

Here are some things that SB's can do to keep safe while enjoying the night.

Sugar Safety Tips

• Go for comfortable chic vs. super sexy. If your platform stilletos hurt. Leave em at home. You never know if you have to walk a long distance or run from a bad situation.

• Use the buddy system. Never abandon your friends or leave them in a dangerous situation...don't go off with a random guy or let friends leave with someone they don't know...esp. if they are drinking. I lost a few friends bc they abandoned me and left me without a ride. Yes...we are all adults but a real friend would never leave another friend stranded. I learned my lesson.

• Always have a designated driver or ask the bartender/ conceiger to call u a cab. No explanation needed. I never, ever get shit faced at the club. I always get fucked up at home with trusted friends. Never in public. I don't wanna be that girl.

• Never talk/ text after exiting your car. Nasty habit and a major distraction. While tweeting or chatting away someone can quickly approach from behind. Stay Alert.

• Never stand outside the club or any event after it closes. I never stay till the very end of a party. However if u must stay...smart ppl leave at least 15 min early to get your car from valet and beat the rush. Only losers hang around outside the club trying to see, be seen and"pick up" or get "picked up".

• Never accept a drink from ANYBODY. Unless you watch the bartender make it.

• Always try to have a trusted male escort during the late hours of the night. Walking to car, walking to hotel, waiting for cab, etc.

• My mother told me a woman should ALWAYS carry protection. I'm not talking about condoms: p This is where you have to get creative...and think of something simple that will not get confiscated at the door. This is really ghetto but it works.... : p I use a travel size bath and body works perfume bottle filled with bleach. For some reason, bases are worse than acids. You can spray it in someones eyes and run like hell.... A disposible ink pen can cause major damage if used correctly.

The game is so much more than an allowance and your latest trinket.

Protect yourself. You are your best asset.

<3

More soon.

xoxo

[Mocha]

XI.

Hey dolls, sugar babies, bloggers, whoever you are!!!!

I'm back from a long hiatus...

been busy running around enjoying life and trying to maintain my sanity...

SCHOOL

Two more semesters then its off to NURSING [tech] school, and finally UNIVERSITY for a BSN program. I can't wait to start a new chapter of my life and settle into my career. So far, I have two tech schools in mind and they both have different requirements and entrance exams.

It's exhausting.

DRAMA

I know some women say that love sick men are the easiest to manipulate, but its backfiring on me.

Immediate red flag if a guy declares his love for you after day 4 of video chat.

Idk how they do it in Europe but its creepy to throw the word love and marriage all in the conversation. Its even creepier to broadcast your insecurities and self esteem/ depression / family issues. I appreciate the honesty but damn...its like I was hit with a ton of bricks.


I'm tired of his constant need for reassurance. I don't mind giving an occasional ego stroke once in awhile but now I'm starting to feel like your fucking personal therapist. Your so called depression is starting to fuck with my positive vibe.
I know if I say anything to him....I'm automatically the villain. I feel like if I say something he might commit suicide or some shit... I don't want that on my conscience.

This is a non sugar guy...

Do I play along or kick him to the curb?

Even More DRAMA

Jake
I took a break from him bc he wants exclusivity AND he asked me to move in.

I never spent the night with him....we haven't officially fucked yet either. I was sooo freaked out. I kept putting off an answer bc I have commitment phobia. I don't know shit about cohabitation. I would have considered his proposal if he said he wanted to HELP me PURCHASE a place to live.

*sigh

On top of that, he took the car back. He called out of the blue and wanted it back....idk why and I'm not gonna sweat him about it. I HATED gassing that car up anyway. :-(

I'm not tripping bc I have my OWN car...lol my baby is not as nice but it's easier on gas

AND I have new tires. THX JAKE!!!

In retrospect, I think he took the car bc I didn't want to go out with him on Halloween.
I wanted to hang with my friends [new guy] and I did.
Whatever the case is/was he took it personal...

Anyway, our "break" didn't last that long...
He invited me to hang out w a few of his friends for some college game or something.

I've been hanging out nonstop with the guy from kickboxing class. Lets call him Amateur. He's the reason why I'm screwing up with Jake. We went on a few double dates and things are good so far. I hate to admit it but I'm in LUST.

He loves to kiss...I can only imagine what else he can do with that mouth.

SUGAR UPDATES

Accentdaddy is the shit. <3
He kept his word like always and delivered the shoes and stockings from my amazon wish list plus my allowance.

Some of the shoes...too lazy to try the stockings...but I know ACCENTDADDY wants to see me in them. *wink

He's such a good boy. My only problem is the time zone difference. Sometimes I don't feel like getting dolled up and chatting at 6am on a Thursday esp. After a night on the town...but I gotta do what I gotta do.

xoxo

Mocha

[brownsugarbaby]

[ Spoil Me Baby ] Fall Must Haves

I'm in the salon starving. I wish my stylist would hurry the fck up...I've been waiting like half an hour. The least she could do is have her assistant come over and offer some sparkling wine and gluten free cookies.

Sugar Updates

• Everything is FAB with AccentDaddy. He wants more vids of me in the shower and shaving. No problemo. Mucho dinero, papi.
• I'm taking a break from Jake for a few days and I will explain later.
• I have a non sugar double date tonight. Super Excited.

Anyway---

Here is small sample of my Fall / Winter wishlist:

^^No words necessary.

I have a winter white wool coat but I need black.

I'm a shoe fiend.

Accentdaddy has a foot fetish.

Hmmmmm. I'll def ask him to send a pair or two or three.

Cute blazers to transition my bandage dresses.

I'm a thrifty SB!!! x ]

^^ A Must Have dress for dinner w/jake or freestyling.

I have to keep my options open.

*wink*

I need cute ski bunny outfits.

I want to go to Sundance or Winter X-games ASAP!

$$$$

Kim's Goyard Satchel.

Want want want. Super splurge $3500 plus.

I'll take a personalized Goyard.

Please daddy.

*seductive pout*

xoxo

mocha.

[brownsugarbaby]